Hilarious, frank & real – grown-ups dealing the best they can in Sex After Kids

A father/adult daughter conversation that ventures into TMI territory – for both of them.

A date between two single parents that ends with a note that reads: “I’m really really sorry for drugging you.”

A couple with an infant and a non-existent sex life are both tempted to stray.

These are just a few of the moments presented in the multi-storied Sex After Kids – now playing in Toronto at the Carlton. This film, by Canadian writer/director Jeremy LaLonde, was a labour of love, of friends and family, on many levels – funded through a crowdsourcing campaign and populated with an impressive ensemble of Canadian talent, including some familiar faces from the cast of Lost Girl (Paul Amos, Katie Boland, Kris Holden-Ried, Christine Horne and Zoie Palmer), veteran actor Gordon Pinsent and some truly adorable kids (including LaLonde’s son and daughter).

This is a hilariously frank, real and poignant look at the sex lives of parents – mostly new parents – and how the grown-ups deal with the challenge of navigating their drastically altered lives and relationships, and coming to grips with how their own identities have changed in the process. Everyone is flawed, struggling and doing the best they can to deal with his/her situation, to varying degrees of success. Not everyone gets a happy ending, but life moves on. I laughed a lot, gasped several times and really felt for these characters. This is an outstanding and generous cast, and the stories were woven together brilliantly.

It was especially gratifying to see Sex After Kids last night, as actor Amanda Brugel and her Brug’s Army hosted a fundraising screener – including a food and clothing drive, and cast meet ‘n greet – for Ernestine’s Women’s Shelter.

Sex After Kids has been held over for another week at the Carlton, so if you’re in Toronto, get your butt on over there to see it.

Check out the trailer:

50 things I’ve learned

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Me at my fourth or fifth birthday.

I was inspired by Toronto Star columnist Joe Fiorito’s list of 65 things he’s learned to create one of my own milestone lists. In no particular order:

  1.  It’s better to give. – Zoie Palmer reminded me of this in a tweet she posted today
  2.  People who talk to you about others will also talk to others about you. – can’t recall the origin of this one
  3. Whenever you have the chance, go for a pee and drink water. – Brenda Sharpe reminded me of this during our office party yesterday
  4. Life can’t always be champagne and latkes. – Elisabeth G.
  5. Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind. – originally thought this was Dr. Seuss, but it’s actually Bernard Baruch
  6. Re-examine all you have been told. Dismiss that which insults your soul. – Walt Whitman
  7. When changing a baby boy’s diaper, get the front flap of the fresh diaper in place ASAP.
  8. You can learn a lot about someone – and yourself – by how they/you untangle a mess of Christmas tree lights.
  9. Prior planning prevents piss-poor performance. – British army wisdom (shared by Stephanie Bitten)
  10. If you don’t act crazy, you’ll go crazy. – Dr. Benjamin Franklin “Hawkeye” Pierce (played by Alan Alda) from the TV show M*A*S*H
  11.  Silence speaks volumes.
  12. Don’t forget to breathe.
  13. In any conversation, listening is extremely important – even more so than speaking.
  14. It’s not a good idea to proofread your own writing.
  15. Always take note of the source of any praise, criticism or information that comes your way; not all sources are reliable, truthful or without agenda.
  16. People are the strangest animals I’ve ever seen.
  17. Trying to organize a group of lively, smart, creative people is like herding cats.
  18. You are what you say you are.
  19. You are not your job.
  20. If someone’s bullying or mistreating you, chances are they were/are bullied/mistreated themselves.
  21. Art is vital to a good quality of life.
  22. Smiling makes you feel better.
  23. Laughing makes you feel even better than smiling.
  24. When shaving your legs, it’s best to not go above the knee.
  25. People, even those you love, will disappoint you. They will also surprise you, in a good way.
  26. Faint heart never won fair maiden.– Elisabeth G., while perhaps not the originator of this quote, reminds me of this always
  27. Better to try and fail than regret not trying.
  28. ‘ Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. – Alfred Lord Tennyson
  29. Be as good a friend to yourself as your good friends are to you.
  30. Lovers may come and go, but good friends – your chosen family – are for keeps.
  31. Don’t be afraid to tell your loved ones that you’re afraid.
  32. Besides death and taxes, the only thing you can count on is that things will change.
  33. This too shall pass. This goes for the good as well as the bad.
  34.  Sometimes, something that initially appears to be a negative can turn out to be a positive.
  35. The body is sexy, but the brain is sexier.
  36. Having a pet to come home to is a truly wonderful thing, especially if you live alone.
  37.  Dark chocolate really does have healing powers.
  38.  So does red wine.
  39. You can never get too many hugs. Same goes for giving hugs.
  40. Having a positive attitude in the day-to-day goes a long way toward staying positive when times get rough.
  41. You and your doctor are partners in the maintenance of your health and well-being.
  42. Finding joy in simple, everyday moments is a really good thing.
  43. When experiencing a conflict with someone, it can be helpful to examine what you have in common.
  44. Be prepared for the worst, and hope for the best – but don’t dwell on it too much.
  45. Don’t pass up the chance to say “I love you.”
  46. Being alone is not the same as being lonely.
  47. When it comes to romance, it’s better to be alone than in a bad relationship.
  48. Make sure to have music in your life.
  49. Be kind to the world and all its creatures, including you.
  50. Be the best version of yourself that you can be.

Support Sex After Kids movie & get Jeremy & Zoie into chipmunk suits!

Okay, so I’ve mentioned this in the blog before, but this is an extra special case, since I know a lot of you are a) fans of edgy comedy; b) fans of Lost Girl and c) fans of actor Zoie Palmer.

Donors to Sex After Kids got writer/director Jeremy LaLonde into a chipmunk suit and now, he’s willing to do it again – and this time, actor Zoie Palmer is willing to do it too. The only catch, the film’s Indiegogo campaign must reach $40K by midnight tomorrow (Friday, March 23).

How can you make this amazing feat of tomfoolery happen – and help get Sex After Kids made? I’m glad you asked.

Want to know more? Visit the film’s website: http://www.sakmovie.com/sak/Welcome.html

Then, get your butt on over to: http://www.indiegogo.com/Sex-After-Kids and donate.

See? Easy! Let the chipmunk shenanigans begin!

Heartbreak & hard choices on Lost Girl

Okay, so I’ll try to keep the spoilerage to a minimum – but be warned. I just may get carried away and I’m still processing the hugeness of recent developments, as well as dealing with that lost hour of sleep from Saturday night.

The Showcase synopsis forewarned of pre-war casualties in last night’s episode of Lost Girl “Truth and Consequences.” And, boy, there were casualties. Relationships. Innocence. Death. To quote some lyrics from one of my favourite Sarah McLachlan tunes: “Hold on. Hold on to yourself. This is gonna hurt like hell.”

Kenzi had to make a hard choice about her relationship with Nate. Bo had to choose how far she was willing to go in these early days of battle with the Garuda. And Nadia’s disturbing ailment – confirmed as part possession/part Fae Congo virus – forced Lauren and Bo, and even Nadia herself, into a deadly decision. Meanwhile, Hale steps up and shows leadership in organizing a sit-down between Lachlan and Trick, and Dyson is AWOL. This episode was as heartbreaking as it was gripping – and left the audience feeling that this is only the beginning of the sacrifices to come.

Big props to Lost Girls Anna Silk, Ksenia Solo and Zoie Palmer for their outstanding performances. Thank you for that, ladies.

Three more episodes of season 2 to go, including a special finale pre-show event before the final s2 episode on Sun, April 1.

Let’s give it up for the indie films!

A couple of indie film projects have come to my attention recently, and I think they deserve your support (via word-of-mouth, social media alerts and monetary donations) and recognition. Check out the links below, which include info, teaser trailers and an opportunity to support The Cocksure Lads and Sex After Kids:

The Cocksure Lads, written and directed by Murray Foster (Alum pal Laura Vincent, an actor in the project, alerted me to this one): http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/1246945042/you-gotta-stay-cocksure?ref=email

Sex After Kids, a Jeremy LaLonde project (Lost Girl fans will be happy to hear that the ensemble cast features actors Paul Amos, Kris Holden-Ried and Zoie Palmer): http://www.indiegogo.com/Sex-After-Kids

So give it up for the indies, folks! Blog it, tweet it, send them some dough.

Lost Girl – fae’ing with fire

What with the Arizona trip and so much else going on, it’s been a while since I’ve posted about Lost Girl, so it’s high time I remedied that.

Showcase is teasing Canadian viewers with a couple of new episodes at a time lately (the next new s2 ep. is March 4) – but, boy, are those episodes cookin’! Once again, SPOILER ALERT applies for anyone who’s not up-to-date on season two.

Our much missed doc Lauren has returned from her vacation with girlfriend-out-of-a-coma Nadia, who is moving beyond standard girlfriend suspicion of Bo into outright snooping: close-up pics of Lauren’s pendant, sneaking into Bo’s room and peering into the weapons chest, and generally tagging along with Lauren everywhere she goes. And the last scene of the most recent episode showed us an even darker side of Nadia, who appeared to be zoned out in a trance, slicing the palm of her hand with a Psycho-grade kitchen knife. When Lauren intervened, Nadia acted confused and scared – then a sly grin as Lauren comforted her in a hug. Bad Fae? Possessed human? Only time will tell. One thing for sure – it’s not good. And it likely has something to do with the impending Garuda show-down. Lovely work from Zoie Palmer on Lauren’s continued struggle with her feelings for Nadia and Bo, and it was nice to see more of Athena Karkanis (Nadia), who’s giving the Nadia haters a real reason to want her out of the picture.

Anna Silk just keeps on growing into her character – and School’s Out (ep. 16) was particularly fun, what with Bo going undercover as a (hot) teacher and all. In The Girl Who Fae’d with Fire (ep. 17), Ksenia Solo got to bring the hotness. And all while saving the world from possible Fae-related doom. Damn, ladies!

Can’t help but feeling that the fire in this last episode, courtesy of lava monster under-Fae, is a foreshadowing of the flames to come.

Check out Dorothy Snarker’s SnapCaps (AfterEllen.com) on the last two eps – she knows of what she speaks:

http://www.afterellen.com/tv/lost-girl-recap-216

http://www.afterellen.com/tv/lost-girl-recap-217

Happy sci-fi fantasy!

Hey all – so how are the holidays treating you so far? I’ve been having a great time with friends, family and food – and lots of drink. And it’s only Tuesday.

Okay – so, I know, we’ve been just over a week now without a new ep. of Lost Girl – and January 22 is so far away – but AfterEllen.com blogger Dorothy Snarker came to our rescue recently with this interview with Zoie Palmer: http://www.afterellen.com/people/an-interview-with-lost-girl-star-zoie-palmer  In the meantime, for those of you who like to watch the olde thyme way on t.v., it appears that Showcase is having a mini-marathon of Lost Girl on Saturday, December 31 at 3 p.m. Otherwise, I suggest you get your fix at: http://www.showcase.ca/lostgirl/

And have you seen the Dr. Who Christmas special? I know!

All the best as we continue towards the New Year.